Next steps for a divorced dad

For many that have had the unpleasure of becoming a divorced parent, you will know that trying to find out what to do after this can cause a whirlwind of anxiety and nervousness. This is a normal feeling and you should never feel ashamed about having these feelings. As a married person, in a family home surrounded by kids, you are used to a routine life. This routine is normally shattered when a relationship ends. A divorced dad will normally do what needs to be done and give the mother of their children the chance to have the family home, whilst they go out and find a roof. It can be extremely difficult for the dad as they don’t know what steps they should do next if they want to still be a good dad, if you’re not sure, then read on. 

Help the kids cope 

First and foremost, in any divorce process, as a parent, you should look at how the kids are doing and help guide them through all of this. Divorce can be extremely difficult for any child to handle. Feelings start to spiral out of control and they wonder if this is something that is down to them. It’s your job as a loving parent to keep reassuring them that this has nothing to do with them and that you still love and care for them just as much as you did when you were with their mother. Studies have proven that children of divorce tend to struggle more with academic studies, sometimes have erratic behaviour and are more likely to become depressed. 

Again, as a parent, you should ensure that you are doing everything in your power to allow for a seamless transition. When you are going through the divorce process, the solicitors that you choose should be providing a service to all of your family to make sure that the kids aren’t negatively affected. There are many great family solicitors that you can choose from. 

Stay close by 

If you are a divorced dad and you have given the ex-wife the family home, the best thing that you can do is to try and obtain accommodation that is relatively close to that home. This is a great way to maintain a relationship with the children and still be on common ground with the ex-wife. Of course, this is sometimes not a possibility due to work commitments or financial difficulties. However, always try and go to a place that is convenient for the children. 

Stay connected from a distance 

If for some reason, you are unable to regularly go and visit the children after your divorce, there are other means that allow you to stay connected with them and show them that you still care about them. Something that you could do could be a care package; A care package is an amazing gift to receive if you are a child. The package can contain some personalised things just for them, such as food, books and small stuffed animals. Surprise gifts are also a great way to show your affection towards them; Sending them flowers or balloons on special occasions, or even ordering them food for passing their exams etc. These are all ways that you can show your child how much you care about them; you can even leave a note that tells them this in more detail. 

Be prepared for child support 

If you are a non-custodial parent after a divorce, it is more than likely that you will have to pay child support. Child support is normally a legal requirement that is implemented by the government that ensures both parents are providing their children with what they need. As a divorced dad, you should make sure that you are ready to pay this extra bill.